My new theory

God did not give us rules, he gave us love and salvation. And if we believe, we will live right because we have that love in us. Our knowledge makes secure our love and desire for "living right" if we believe, we will not be following rules, we will be living out of love and living with God. We shouldn't look for rules and principles, just a relationship with God. Rules and standards mean consequences and punishment if they are not obeyed. How is that a loving Father? "Do this or else" perhaps he wants us to live with his guiding light inside of us, the way Jesus, the Father and the Spirit are one, and in doing that we are already living the way we should, without rules, but with the true unadulterated love of God.
There is no mercy or grace in rules, not even for one mistake. That is why we are so blessed to have Jesus. He fulfilled all of that for us so that rules no longer have jurisdiction over us. And the laws that once demanded the impossible "thou shalt not" actually became a promise God fulfills in us.
If we live our life alone and independently the promise is empty. Jesus laid the demand of the law to rest. It no longer has the power to accuse or command. Jesus is the promise and the fulfillment. And he is our freedom, because of him, there is no law. Only God's love for us made plain. Then we live in his law and with his law. Once his love is written on our hearts the rules no longer apply.
How do we find this love? How do we know we are there? We probably won't be, scratch that we definitely won't make it there in this life. Jesus was the only one who lived with God always on this earth. (how the trinity is one God) Yet we can aspire to that. And pray for that in our lives.
The words may not click now, you may agree, but not be able to impliment a change. If you keep searching and trying though, someday you will be able to fully comprehend, and then, only then, can you really begin to change your life. That is the beginning.